You Are Not Alone

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“While I know you understand that you are not in this writing thing alone, I don’t think you are fully embracing it.” – admonishment from me to another writer who shall remain nameless.

How much of your story can receive input from other people before it’s not yours?

Trick question. Your story is always yours.

Even if you get ideas from friends or a tricky paragraph is rewritten by a critique partner, it’s still  your story, your book. All yours, for better or worse. I could take every CP’s suggestion for The Water Castle and the story – by word count – would still be more than 99% mine.

That means it’s mine.

So WHY do we sit alone in front of our computers and struggle to solve our logjammed stories by ourselves?

If I let one person help me, they’re a co-author – and I’m a failure!


Fear we’d be bothering somebody?

Nope. It’s probably lack of knowledge – as in, lack of realizing there are people who want us to succeed. Other writers. Who know what the process is like.

Yesterday I was chatting on Facebook with a friend who had a dilemma in her story. She saw a bit of a plot hole and – as is often the case – solved one problem and created a bunch of other issues. Stories are like that.

It can be like pulling a thread on a sweater and unravelling a BUNCH before you know it.

Fortunately, computers have a delete key. Or and undo key. Or a prior unfucked up version saved, hopefully.

As we chatted, I was in the advantageous position to offer ideas as how to solve her dilemma – and she was free to use or disregard any or all of them as she saw fit. We do this a lot because we’re friends and we know we need suggestions on occasion. She has given me ideas, too. In the end, she really just needed to explain away a time gap of about three weeks, and do it smoothly. One way to do that would be to move around chunks of the story – which caused other issues. Another solution was to just start a new chapter with, essentially, “Three weeks later…”

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That’s not really the solution, but that’s it in a nutshell. She may have been racking her brain for hours or days over a solution, but together we came up with a good one in under an hour. And don’t kid yourself; it was mostly her.

A time reference planted earlier in the story, maybe in the previous chapter, with another one planted in the current chapter, would fill about 50% of the bill. Say a clean-shaven guy decides to grow a beard and dye his hair as part of a disguise in chapter ten. In chapter eleven, his beard is an inch long and his bottle-blonde hair is showing major brown roots. Time has obviously passed. In between, a smoothly worded transition to explain it; the “Three weeks later” phrase (redone to be well written and not sound like it came from a fairy tale. You get the idea.) It could have been a reference to seeing another full moon; that comes about every thirty days, right? See?


Today, I chatted with another author friend. She was stuck with a prison escape/possible battle/rescue-the-prisoners situation, with a population of shadow people who live among us. Kind of. But they don’t build big brick prisons like you’d see in a movie.

ME: Well, I suggested think Vietnam; go with bamboo cages, like in The Deer Hunter or Apocalypse Now.

HER: They’re in a cold climate.

Oh. Okay, think Vikings, then…

Oh, Vikings! That’s good. And it’s a cave, on an island.

Damn. Okay, what about…

A prison cave.

Okay, calm down. Can there be a secret way out for them to escape through? A hole people are afraid to go through or near, like the forbidden zone in the Original Planet of the Apes?

I didn’t see that. But it’s not an escape. Their friends come to rescue them.

Okay… so they use what’s available, a cave. There are sometimes places that people fear to go beyond. That was true in Papillon, where they said the currents would take you back to the island prison but throwing coconuts into the water Steve McQueen figured out that wasn’t true and he escaped.

Papillion? I’ll have to look that up

Pay attention! It’s a device.


I’m just referencing it so you know I’m not making things up. Caves go off in all directions. Some small tiny itsy bitsy holes open into big cavernous rooms. Maybe at lights out, somebody sees a candle flicker. It would only do that if there was an air current. From this hole too small to wedge through, and only at certain times – that’s why nobody noticed it before. BUT! There’s a hole at the other end that is covered by the tide. It’s only open to the air at a full moon/low tide. The draft proves it, but the draft only comes for a few hours once a month. HE KNOWS if he can get in there, he can escape.

And only in the time before the water freezes, which is why they have to hurry

Sure, or before polar bears move in, whatever.

Haha. Well, it’s supposed to be a rescue mission.

They can rescue from the other side, whatever you need. Maybe the friends get caught on purpose to explain the plan and set up the escape/rescue.

Oh, that’s interesting. Then it’s like a Trojan horse scenario!


Logjam solved, the ideas started POURING out of her. She was on a roll.

I’m not sure how long she worked on the problem, but

working together we came up with ideas relatively quickly that would solve her story dilemma and get her back to writing.

SHE has to write all this stuff. It’s still HER story. But she was able to get through a tough spot by way of kicking around ideas with a friend. My role was basically referencing other books and movies where similar problems had existed and mentioning what they came up with as a solution. Remember:

  • If somebody contributes 200 words to your 80,000 word book, they haven’t changed it very much. About a quarter of one percent, really. That’s not a co-author, that’s a FRIEND.
  • If they contribute a solution to a problem – one of the FOUR DOZEN you have in any good story – they didn’t do much. Don’t worry about it. You figured out the other 47 yourself.

My second friend grabbed onto the one idea that worked for her story, paring it down and adapting the essence of the idea into what she needed. Then she was off to the races. (And she’s helped me before, too.)

Often we’ll solve our story problems ourselves just by having to explain them to somebody else.

Story problems are complex and integrated with other story elements in our brain, but we have to simplify them for another person to understand the issue, and by doing so, we often simplify it enough to see a solution to our problem.

Use other writers for problem spots. They understand. They want to help. They like it. They sometimes help just by giving you ideas you don’t use, showing you that what you worried might not be good enough might in fact be just fine.

And they’ll need help on their story down the road, too.

You don’t have to go it alone. So don’t.


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26 thoughts on “You Are Not Alone

  1. I can’t imagine publishing without beta reader feedback. We all come with blind spots. And I’ve learned at least as much from beta reading in return as I have from the feedback on my own work. Super important. 🙂

  2. You raise a good point, and one I bet a lot of new writers don’t know!

    I’ve hit several of those roadblocks myself. I usually run a question by my CPs—since they already know the story and the characters, they can usually get me on the right path pretty quickly. A lot of times though, I’ve found the process of just writing out the situation in enough detail to ask my question makes it clear enough for me find my own solution…and if it doesn’t, I’m all ready to click send.

    I’ve fielded a lot of the same types of questions from my CPs as well, and I’m sure none of us ever felt like we gave up a bit of ownership in our stories by helping each other out. It’s all part of the creative process, and it can be a lot of fun!

    1. Right, CJ! And many times, it’s really BEFORE a new author discovers those people – CPs, betas, whatever – that they tend to flounder in the abyss. But not always, and either way there’s no reason to not reach out. CPs are the best. Teamwork rocks.

  3. Sometimes all it takes is bouncing ideas off of someone else who isn’t even responding — talking out loud, as it were. I dunno why that helps, but it does.

  4. Are you suggesting, “The whole town shares the responsibility for raising an author”. If that’s the case that’s a good idea. Everybody loves their 2 cents and it would be honor for them to help knowing that a paragraph or two was their idea.

  5. This was actually a conversation I was having with a friend of mine the other night over, of all places, Xbox. He is a writer in a different city, and I was telling him, one of the issues I run into is feeling like I write in a void. They can be nice, but at the same time, you ever notice how the pizza guy throws the dough back and forth to stretch it out. Best crust ever. Ideas have a similar process (at least I believe they do).

  6. Thanks for the recent follow on Twitter! I am so glad to have found an author with a wonderful blog like yours. I am just starting out with my writing career and am also working on my first book. The advice I have found so far here on your blog has been inspiring! Thanks for sharing your advice.

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