Part 4: You Have To Be Willing To Put Yourself Out There As An Author

On Sunday, we broached the idea of putting yourself out there as an author,

and on Monday and Tuesday we discussed ways to do it. Today we conclude with some of the hows and whys.

I understand the dilemma. You don’t feel like you have friends you can ask that stuff to. Well, if you have writer friends, you do. If few women in your real life would feel comfortable discussing something with you, don’t go there. Your writer friends have probably asked for help on a scene before; they’re used to it – but tread lightly. Same with you ladies; you can ask guys probably anything, but take care to not seem like you’re coming on to him. Which he’ll think you are no matter what. So get the info, then dump the bucket of cold water on him. It’s how it has to be.

I put it like this. Information is important, and good, accurate information is the difference between good storytelling and crappy storytelling. Google will only take you so far, but don’t be afraid to read a scene from some other book and see how that writer did what you’re trying to do. Don’t plagiarize, but see how it worked. Emulate.

Then, when you’re ready to show your scary little scene to the world, bounce it off a few writer friends first. Approach it the way you’d get a beautiful woman to go to bed with you. You may have to build some rapport over a few dates, and then when the trust is established, you can make your move. (The reverse is not true for women trying to get a guy into bed. Ladies can just say “Wanna fuck?” and he’s all in. For you women, approach it the way you’d like a nice guy to approach you. Hopefully that involves some time investment or my analogy is screwed.)

Establish trust, build rapport, be helpful in return, and you will have a small team of people who will help you with even the most delicate of scenes – and that can be crazy monkey sex, or it can be a gentle first kiss.

See how I did it in this post? I established trust in other posts by writing about helpful author-ey stuff, then early in this one I mentioned boobs and Game Of Thrones. After just a few thousand words we’ve moved on to pussy checks and eye shots – some very intimate things you weren’t expecting to read about, but here we are. And I don’t think anybody’s too embarrassed yet, because we’re treating it in a helpful, educational manner. That’s what you have to do. A little humor doesn’t hurt, either.

Here’s another example:

“How’s this?” he asked. He sat behind her in the motorbike seat, wrapping his arms tight around her waist, his right hand reaching up to cup her left breast and vice versa. She leaned back, her head nestled under his chin.


“Great,” she said. “It feels great. Best feel ever on a cycle seat.”

My analysis?

I think I’d say it more directly. It’s probably not important that we know he specifically puts his right hand to her left breast, per se; it’s pretty much the only way he can do it from behind, and if reader can imagine it a different way, that’s good for them. But for clarity without Latin, I’d be more plain.

He wrapped his arms tight around her waist and cupped her breasts in his hands.

We get it. Add something if you want, to finish it off smoothly:

He wrapped his arms tight around her waist and cupped her breasts in his hands, nuzzling her ear.

You get the idea. The scene is flowing. The original way reads less smooth to my eye.

This is how it’s done. You write, you research, you trust, you put it out there.

You put yourself out there.

And if you aren’t certain, ask a few writer friends for help. If you don’t have any, you do now – ask me for help. I’ll help you. Maybe later, you’ll help me.

Then, put yourself out there. It’s the only way this author stuff actually goes from in your head to on the page to being seen by readers and book buyers.

You little pervert, you.


By carrying that computer around, he looks like he just might know something, doesn't he?
By carrying that computer around, he looks like he just might know something, doesn’t he?

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